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Being Confident and Calm when you talk to your (Boss) Employer

by Penny Keay

The scents and essential oils that may help when you need to have a ‘serious’ conversation.

There are times when you hope you can find just the right words, the right time and have confidence in any number of confrontations. A question asked recently was how to approach your boss or employer when you are having a meeting or evaluation that could result in a raise in pay or promotion.

You need an essential oil or a blend that can make you feel confident, calm and one that the boss will not object to if you should be wearing or diffusing it.

Scents which can calm you during an intense meeting (i.e. asking the boss for a raise or promotion), can vary as you need to gain the confidence and assertiveness to speak in a manner you will convey to the employer that you can do the job or are deserving of the increase in pay.

Due to the nature of it being a stressful and possible anxiety filled meeting, we suggest the number one panic and anxiety essential oil, Neroli.    It is the top ‘panic’ or anxiety single note essential oil. 

Neroli is well known, to help with stress levels from several aspects. It just seems to calm you from within dealing with nervous tension, helps to boost your confidence while you are facing your fears. It is an uplifting essential oil

However, there are other essential oils too but just not suggested as often by aroma therapists since Neroli is so good.

Others include – of course – any oil you like the smell of that seems to do the trick, otherwise if you’re not sure where to start here are some suggestions:

Bergamot, Mandarin, Jasmine, Vetiver, Melissa, Juniper berry, Patchouli, Roman Chamomile, Lavender, Sandalwood, Cedarwood, Rose Otto, Geranium, Frankincense and Clary Sale.

- If the situation is going to be ‘intense’ then the suggestions are: Sandalwood, Lavender, Clary Sage, Roman Chamomile, Patchouli

-If you are Apprehensive then: Neroli, Bergamot, Jasmine Lavender, Rose Otto, Melissa, Geranium.  

-If you are dealing with the ‘sick feeling in the pit of your stomach’ anxiety then Vetiver, Cedarwood, Juniper berry, Roman Chamomile and Frankincense.

-If the situation is making you irritated, having difficulty with concentrating or insomnia over the whole thing then Bergamot, Melissa, Neroli, Rose Otto, Sandalwood, Vetiver, Cedarwood

If you or the boss is having any signs of irritability then it is better to put off the meeting than to come across as ill-tempered or unreasonable. Try to control your mood (and your employers) before you enter the meeting.

Hopefully these suggestions will put you and your boss at ease and you’ll get the raise or promotion you are seeking.

Here are a few blends to try:

Ask the Boss with Confidence Blend

Neroli - 3 drops
Cedarwood – 3 drops
Jasmine – 2 drops

Blend together and use in a personal inhaler. You can also wear on a piece of jewelry. This is a fairly strongly scented blend so use only a drop or two when wearing on jewelry.

This blend can be diffused too but use sparingly.

Confidence and Assertive Blend

Bergamot fcf – 10 drops
Lime - 5 drops
Frankincense – 5 drops
Geranium – 3 drops
Cedarwood – 3 drops

Blend together and use in a personal inhaler or wear a drop on jewelry. You can diffuse this blend too.

You can also try any of the following synergy blends: Calming, Anxiety Stop, Relaxing, Inspiration, Enlighten, Elation, Easy Going, Peaceful, Trusting and possibly others.

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